The word “ divorce “ itself doesn’t sound very cool. However, it does happen and an extremely normal thing. You, the decision-maker of your own life has the choice to walk away when you know it is the right decision to make.
But it is also important to think twice about your decision. Here are a few tips which you should consider before making this life-changing decision. Because we see many people in today’s society who regret their decision and children who suffer because of their parent’s decision.
Find the real reason behind it.
Talk to yourself and try to understand the real reason behind it. So many people come up with thousands of reasons which includes dramatic conflicts which don’t really deserve a divorce. Find the root cause of your problem. So, think about your real reason and try to fix it with your partner. If you have done something wrong, ask for forgiveness and try to make it right. If it is your partner give him/her another chance. Remind yourselves about how you fell in love, emotions and old memories
Just ask your Yourself When You Doubt and Thinking About the Divorce
- Is my brain thinking and working normally?
- Is my feeling attached to someone else than my partner?
- Have I done everything that what I can do?
- Have I done my role correctly?
- What will be the future of our children after the end of our marriage?
- Did I forgive my partner?
- Did I ask for sorry from my partner?
- Do I still have a feeling for him or her?
- Why am I not happy with my partner?
- Am I sexually happy with my partner?
Do not give up, if your partner needs any medical situation
Eventually, your partner becomes a sad or depressed state. This is completely normal. Therefore, it means you must have to take care of your partner. Find a good psychiatrist or counselor to solve this mental illness. This is not a reason for signing the divorce papers. Do not give up on your partner at hard times.
Take a break.
This does not mean that you should go on a trip with your friends and have fun. No. This is if you have been eternally arguing with your partner and if you were constantly mad at each other. Then give those arguments a break. Take time to think about what has been happening between both of you. It might cool down both of your anger and might really help to fix things right. Don’t be panic and take some time to settle down your mind.
Mutual understanding of the situation.
You two need to understand your own situation and look through it carefully. Because you both are doing this expecting a magical future for both of you. So both of your patience is needed to preserve your love and bond. One of you must be feeling exhausted sometimes or maybe really mad at each other too. But you are not next to you to make it right for her/him. So try to tolerate each other and help each other to overcome all the mood swings. Understanding your own situation is the key to survive your challenge.
Don’t rush it up.
There’s no hurry to make the decision unless you have exceptional reasons. If your emotions are too high will be heading to emotionally decision. Take time and think through it. Make sure that you have tried hard enough to make your marriage work.
Think about all the good times and how you fell in love. Remind yourself about all the commitments you both have done so far. Take time to decide.
If you have tried enough and have finally decided to walk away, yeah it is time for you to walk away. You should not feel ashamed about your decision and you should not focus on what your society would comment about it.
Make it right for everyone.
If you have kids, it is a fact that they are gonna get affected by your divorce directly. So make sure you do all possible things to make it right for them. Let your partner visit your kids. Or make terms between you and your partner about your kids.
If your partner is unemployed, do your part right with or without law.
If you both invested on something together, make sure, you give him/her a fair share.
Both of your parents might get shocked to hear this. Talk to them in person and make them understand your decision.
After all, give yourself a fresh start.
This might be a life-changing turning point in life but not unrealistic and not impossible. Face it and start a new life of your own. Make sure you treat your children, ex-partner and ex-in-laws right.
It is never too late to give your life a fresh start. Learn from your mistakes and face challenges. Make plans and reach your goals. Stay happy and be kind to yourself.