You just found out how often your husband hangout with her ? The struggle is real ! Just keep calm for a moment. Forget how angry you are right now. Look far and act smart. You gotta be smart right now. You need to think more about your marriage. Think about your kids. Think how important your marriage to you.
Yes if this has been happening quite often, then you must think of a serious solution. Adultery is a crime !
But if you are thinking of forgiving him for your own reasons, there is a lot which you should know. You will have to make sure that this doesn’t happen again. You need to take initiative to maintain a happy and healthy relationship with your husband
The healing part of your relationship will take time, honesty and a lot of effort from both of you. But isn’t it better to have an idea how it happened ? Let’s check out how your marriage looked like, to your husband.
Yes infidelity is an act of betrayal. There is no doubt about it.
No offense ladies. Just pick your own mistakes.
01.Where did the love go ?
When was the last time you
said “ I love you “ to your husband looking at his eyes? was the last time you kissed him?
were passionate about just talking to him?
Did you go back to the first 2 years of your married life? Doesn’t this sound bad? Do you remember the text messages and love notes you used to send him those days? Yes, they do matter. Tell him that you love him. Send him a text message when you miss him. It is alright to annoy him once in a while. Make your presence prominent in his life.
02. Why do you keep nagging ?
Think of your conversations with him lately. Why do you need to nag at him all the time ? he probably has lost his confident in front of you. But imagine how heroic he must be feeling with his mistress. He probably is tempted with the powerfulness he feels there. Don’t let that ever happen again. Give back his confident. Let him play the hero in front of you. Show him that you trust his capabilities.
03. Sex isn’t a chore.
When was the last time you wore lingerie to surprise your husband? Did you just let that side chick take over? Stop considering sex as a chore. Get a fresh start. Make it exciting for both of you. Maybe it is time for you to buy some trendy lingeries or make him buy those for you. Enjoy the intimacy between you and your husband.
04. Simple gestures of appreciation matters.
Do not let your husband feel that he is only there to support the family financially. There is a greater chance of him being in the impression that you only consider about his monthly income. Appreciate his support. And give him more attention. Don’t let him overwork. Show that you care about his health and fatigue. Appreciate his hard work and efforts. Make his favourite meal once in awhile and surprise him in whatever the random way.
05. Look good for him.
Haven’t you got used to wear shabby clothes if you are going out with him. He might have noticed you only in your torned, faded clothes at home which you are so comfortable with.
You only wear your good stuff to the office and for your own office parties. Don’t let your husband get bored seeing you. Look good and smell good for him even at home. Throw away those faded comfy pyjamas and look fresh for a new start. Don’t let those fashionable trendy women out there, trick your husband with their catchy outfits.
None of the above reasons doesn’t justify what your husband did. But could come in handy for a better and a healthier relationship with him. Give it a try may be when you are ready to start over.